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Sunday, September 03, 2006


"physical intimacy doesn’t solve your problems."

The quote from Jared is so true. If there's anything I learnt from romantic relationships, it is that. IMHO, it is worse when the sex is great because it runs a higher risk of being abused as a crutch to gloss over incompatibilities and fundamental problems in a relationship. The orgasmic high and momentary sense of oneness becomes a drug to distract--to numb--one from the pain of a dead-end relationship. And when the relationship ultimately--inevitably--falls apart, the memory of intimate moments shared lingers on to resurface in the depths of the night--to cut deep, to remind one of the emptiness on the other side of the bed. It is amazing how a little space--2 feet by 6 feet--can seem so vast, empty and cold in-between the terrible private hours of drifting off and waking.

That is not to say I wholly regret these indulgences (religious implications of sin notwithstanding), it is just that sometimes the price seems too high.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I thought you were a virgin!

September 03, 2006 3:32 PM  
Blogger -ben said...

I am flattered.

September 03, 2006 3:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Not virtuous virgin, but can't-get-any virgin!

September 04, 2006 6:30 AM  
Blogger -ben said...

No, I am the penitent virgin.

September 05, 2006 5:33 AM  

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